Mom’s The Word
With spring tulips comes Mother's Day. And on Mother's Day it's tradition to reach out to the maternal figure(s) in our lives with wishes of love and gratitude; be it with a card, some tulips or something more extravagant. A commercial holiday? Absolutely. But which ones aren't?
The reason we celebrate mom’s everywhere with their own day is that mothering is hard (or so I hear). The early years can come with a certain amount of isolation, monotony and exhaustion. Anna Jarvis of West Virginia knew that back in 1908 when she organized the first celebration that would become known as Mother’s Day. The people I know who have the Mom Job are generally distracted, stressed and busy all the time, until their kids reach a certain age after which they’re still distracted and stressed but in a different way and maybe a little less busy. Unless they have another job outside of mothering that is.
And what about those mom’s who are on their own? The one’s who have no family to help out or not enough money to connect the dots.
I have an old friend who at one time appeared to have it all. I was still figuring out what to do with my life and there she was married, kids, two SUVs and always wearing something new and about to go on some fabulous trip. She was able to make child rearing her main gig and that’s what she did for 10 years. Then she got a phone call one rainy morning and learned that her husband had been having an affair. The marriage was over. And if that wasn’t enough, in the coming days she would learn they were beyond broke.
My friend spent the next 5 years crawling out of a dark hole. That beautiful house turned into a rented 2-bedroom basement suite. Not easy with 3 kids. Or when you haven’t had a resume worthy job in over a decade. The day she moved into that basement suite I went over for a visit. Afterwards I sat in my car and bawled my eyes out for her.
But my friend is a success story. Today she is making her way with a good job and a better home. I salute her every Mother’s Day.
And of course there are stories far worse than hers.
So this year why not do something different with your mom’s day dollars and lend a hand to single mother’s out there who need it. There are worthy charities in every community and one in particular I like is Cause We Care, which was founded for this very reason.
You can go to www.blueruby.com and purchase a beautiful set of bracelets – a great gift idea – and 100% of the proceeds will go to supporting programs and initiatives such as after-school care, single mother workshops and emergency funding for single mother’s and their children in need. Prices range from $25 to $75.
Or visit www.aritzia.com and pick up a trendy La Notte T-shirt and proceeds will help support the YWCA Cause We Care House.
For more information go to www.causewecare.org or do a google search for other charities in your community that will help mother’s in need.
If you haven’t seen it already, check out the following YouTube link. Mother’s Day is on May 11th.