Wedding Registries

Thursday, 21 May 2009 | Tags: , ,

A well thought-out wedding registry makes easy gift-buying for your guests, and you get exactly what you need. Weíve collected some useful information on how to set up a registry, as well as some not-so-traditional gift ideas.

Registry Basics

  • Traditionally, the new couple registers for everything from china and everyday dishware to towels and linens. Most department and home stores offer bridal registries for all these basics.

  • The best advice for selecting a gift registry is to make sure you both agree on where and what you’re registering for.

  • It’s a good idea to register at a couple of different stores to make it easier on your guests to find something at a nearby location or within their price range. But don’t register at more than 2 or 3 places or you’ll have a hard time getting all the pieces you want. It can also be complicated for returns after the big day.

  • Stores that have online registries are a fantastic convenience, both for the soon-to-be-married couple and for the guests. It allows you to manage everything from home, and allows guests who don’t have a particular store nearby to purchase items online for you to pick-up at your local store.

  • You should do your registry at least six months before your wedding in order to have it ready for engagement parties, showers, and even birthdays if appropriate.

  • When you create a registry, the price of the items usually stays the same for up to a year after the wedding, so if you don’t get everything you want, you can still get it at a potentially good price later.

  • When deciding on number of place settings, expect breakage over time. Twelve will give you lots of spares, but ten will do.

  • Put things on your registry you wouldn’t normally buy for yourself, like crystal or china. You can pass these on to your children. But remember, don’t go crazy and put on things you probably won’t ever use.

  • Don’t forget to include everyday practical items like can openers, good kitchen knives, and a good set of wooden spoons.

  • Try to stick to a consistent colour theme so whatever you register for will match.

  • Make sure you find out about store policies for picking up or holding purchased items. You don’t want to be going back to the store every time someone purchases something.

Other Considerations

  • Once you’ve registered, you need to direct your guests to your registries. Don’t include information about your registry in the wording of the wedding invitation itself. Instead, slip in a separate piece with information, maps, and web sites.

  • Consider creating your own personalized wedding website to communicate everything to your guests. Include the website address on a separate, smaller card with your invitation, or send an e-postcard.

  • Wedding etiquette says a guest has one year from the wedding date to buy and deliver a gift, but you can purchase and send a gift for a wedding as soon as you receive an invitation.

  • As a favour to the wedding party and family, don’t take the gift to the reception – someone has to cart them all home after a night of celebration.

Taking a New Approach

  • These days, many couples getting married have already lived together and have most of what they need. Back when registries were first created in the late 1800s, couples moved in together after the wedding and had practically nothing.

  • Registries can now be set up to purchase one major item, or a few unique items, for example:

    • The honeymoon. Guests can purchase parts of a trip (e.g. airfare, hotel, dinner, scuba lessons, spa packages, etc.), or contribute to a pool of money that goes toward the holiday.

    • Sports equipment, if there’s something you love to do together, like kayaking, mountain biking, or skiing.

    • Furniture items like couches, beds, etc. can be purchased by several people.

    • A downpayment on a home.

    • A charitable cause. If you don’t need anything, or if it’s just your style, donate your cash gifts to the charity of your choice.

Don’t Forget

  • Make sure you send personalized thank you’s within a reasonable amount of time after the wedding (e.g. within one to three months). And if you receive a gift before the wedding, it’s best to send a card right away to reduce the thank you load after the wedding.

  • If you change your mind about a gift received and decide to return it, be sure to send a thank you for the original gift purchased.



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